Who suits best in shaping your future – parents or career counsellors?

  • Niharika Mishra

About future?  If you do not happen to like your job, then you are one of the thousands of people out there. According to a global survey, for every ‘engaged worker’ out there, there two ‘disengaged workers’. That is an alarming statistic! Right? But have you ever wondered, why?

Throughout your professional lives, you may have encountered with various people in many situations where they could benefit from unbiased advice. They may be in the process of choosing a stream or a career, deciding whether or not they should change careers or jobs, re-entering the workforce, or maybe wanting to learn more about career guidance in general – a complete knowledge always helps.

They come to the realization that it’s an overwhelming process, and they need to learn all about the what, how, and why of the career guidance process.

At this point in time, some working professionals like you might think that ‘proper career guidance’ by some experts could sail you through these turbulent times.

You might have encountered with some graduate (a typical 1990s kid) who is doing the course because the parents want him/ her to do it or he was not sure of any other and thus is doing the course.

However, career counselling has always been important but only recently, got the recognition it deserves. Earlier, people sought out career counsellors, for a change in careers, only after they got a job and were unhappy with it. Now, people recognize that this isn’t ideal. What is noteworthy is to consider why people change careers.

Earlier, parents serve as a major influence on their children’s career development and career decision- making.

Parents influence the level of education or training that their children achieve; the knowledge they have about work and different occupations; the beliefs and attitudes they have to work; and the motivation they have to succeed. Most of this is learned unconsciously – children and teenagers absorb their parents’ attitudes and expectations of them as they grow up.

With ‘Engineer, and Doctor,’ – being the mantra in 1990’s, students were left with no choice, but to take the burden of their family’s legacy on their shoulders. Parents sometimes forget that their duty is to ‘shape and support’ and not ‘dominate’.

Even if you want to become a writer, parents become very stressful in shaping their child’s future, and bombarded with every possible question that confuses your mind – how much will you earn? What will be your future?

Left with no other choice, you succumbed to their pressure and take ‘writing’ as a hobby, while running behind premier institutes because you started thinking that your life will be settled. But are you happy? The answer is a big ‘NO’.

However, the scenario is different now. You don’t actually need a bundle of degrees and a stressful life to earn a handsome living and support your family.

With so many possible options available – animation, RJ, jewellery designer, students after completing their matriculation, can pursue their dreams without continuing with their schooling.

More often than not, there is no right or wrong- both the parents and the child are right. But they need to come on a common ground of understanding through a third party –‘Counsellors’

So, leave behind those hurdles and chase your dreams freely. Remember – ‘

“Don’t go with the flow, you will be a dead fish; think out of the box and you will be a king.”


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