Have you ever wondered about one of your friends who is so open to you, whom you practically share every nuance and experience of your life and practically spend your entire day with, but when you go out with others, he/she suddenly disappears?
With you he/she is practically the craziest and the “party” animal but suddenly when your company increases by even plus 1 he/she starts getting nervous and a little bit of sweat droplets can be traced down his/her forehead. Till now you must have recognized that one friend and to go deep down the explanation and consideration road, that friend might be suffering from social anxiety or social phobia.
If we Google it out the exact words to be shown are ‘Social anxiety disorder, also called social phobia, is an anxiety disorder in which a person has an excessive and unreasonable fear of social situations. Anxiety (intense nervousness) and self consciousness arise from a fear of being closely watched, judged, and criticized by others.’ Going through the definition, a little bit of nervousness and self -consciousness is reluctant in everyone, whenever we step on a stage in front of hundreds of people, we do have that slight nervousness running through the course of are nerves in anticipation that everything goes well. Or when we talk to new people, we think like thousand times about how to approach and how to introduce yourself to them. Once we are par that everything settles and we start getting comfortable, but not that friend who suffers from social anxiety.
The intensity of nervousness in that person is so high that forget about even stepping on a platform, he might cower out even on the thought of going somewhere near the stage. The self-consciousness in him is so blunt that even after thinking ‘million’ times to approach even a single person he might be having his body shuddered on every step looking as if he is on the verge of crying or having panic attack.
Not many people understand the situation of the one’s suffering in-depth, and try to improvise or direct them according to their needs. A little advice to them is, if you come across any person in your life suffering from social anxiety, try not to push them to do something harder or try to not to reason them out for everything. It is very hard for these people to open themselves but you might not know that behind those covers what might be the reason for their close personality or what humongous talent they might be hiding from the world. Give them time to come out of their shell and slowly approach them and of course never ever criticize or bully them. Help them explore themselves and create opportunities, as you might never know he/she manages to come out of the cocoon one day with your help and might become someone really influential for the society.
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