Shaking a hand within the first 10 seconds of meeting someone is a gesture we Corporate and Business leaders are all used to. But, truly speaking, how many of us have actually mastered this art that could make or break a person’s first impression of us?
While the average handshakes usually don’t stick in our memories, bad handshakes, sadly, do stick for a long time. And, the last thing you want after leaving a networking session, a meeting, an interview, or even a family gathering is to be remembered as the one with limp noodles as fingers or bone-crushing lobster claws as hands.
As a habit, never Use These Handshakes
1. Sweaty palms
This is usually the sign of a nervous person. When a person is nervous their sympathetic nervous system often becomes overactive, sometimes resulting in sweaty palms.
2. Dead fish: Of all the types of handshakes, the ‘dead fish’ is the most infamous one. The hand has no energy, there is no shake, no squeeze, not even a pinch, and it gives the feeling you are holding a dead fish instead of a hand. This handshake is a synonym to low self-esteem.
3. Brush off:
This handshake type is a quick grasp and then a release that feels like your hand being shoved aside. This handshake is a statement of “it’s my turf and my agenda that matters, yours doesn’t.”
4. The two-handed handshake: Usually seen among Politicians, this type of handshake is said to convey the meaning of warmness, friendly, honest and trustworthy. But there’s a catch here: if his/her left hand is staying on your hand, it is a sincere handshake. However, if the hand goes up your wrist, your arms or your elbow, he is trying to get something from you.
You feel your hand being pulled toward the person or strongly guided in a different direction, perhaps towards a chair. People who do this are controllers. This means they want to dominate any inanimate or animate object in the room (and that would include you).