Casteism & Marriage – Upper Class Vs Lower Class


The country as vast as India, that with its very preamble attempts to promote and practice secularism is every day seen being secularised. The country that focuses on eradicating casteism, inside it has the casteism rusting its infrastructure. The fun part of all this is the acts of the citizens accepting and denying the people and their religion and their specific religious norms as well only in case of it.

One of the very common examples of this, ‘the terms and conditions’ acceptance or rejection of castes and religions can be seen in the odd hours. Most of the Indians since ever have been having faith in the superstitious believes. The negative vibes what they call as ‘Nazar’ is the best occasion to witness these things. When it’s in our favour or for our well being we don’t mind accepting them but, when it has nothing to offer you for the goodness we just don’t bother about making them the food for our thoughts.

Also, people don’t often get to witness the casteism frequently on a greater scale except for a few incidents like weddings, marriages. Now that the society is segregated into three categories, the lower, middle and the upper class. The three classes, in their lifestyles, thoughts and viewpoints have had been differing completely. Yet there is something common in most of them and that is their faith in casteism, their ethics that don’t let them accept social norms just the way they are.

Lets now do an imaginary case study to understand casteism in the marriage in the upper and the lower class. You just try to consider two families, one from the lower middle section and the other from the upper class. And assume a situation where the young members of the family fall for and later on marry the member belonging to the different caste. Now try to think over how would the two families react and to what extent will they accept this marriage.

The two families will first think about their ethics and conscience and then will think about of the ways of criticising and taunting the other party. They will recall and enlist all the misbehaviours and bad deads of any member of that cast they know. They will then burst out their anger on the culprit, i.e., the one who married a spouse from an inter-caste family. And the last thing what they would do is to worry about what the relatives and society would say. They will also not miss a chance of blackmailing their kids to call off the marriage.

Lets now take a look at why do they do so. The families do try all this because they have that, hard to change opinions that they cannot find a good spouse for their kids in the other caste. It is also because they think that their caste, religion and family are the best and the other one stands nowhere near them.

If they have some specified dowry demands or have some special expectation, it does not get fulfilled in an inter-caste marriage. Most of the Indian wedded ladies are homemakers and thus they meet and are in contact only with the family neighbouring people. This results in them being non-understanding towards the people of other castes. Parents don’t bother to think about the better, compatible partners for their kids. They rather think about the best one but, within a limited sphere i.e., within the same caste.

A very less figure of only 5% of Indians has been reported to have had intercaste marriages. This act has never been a thing of social approval because of honour killings and criticism that the families face because of their narrow-mindedness. There have been such issues within the society. While a few have, for a good change or due to the obligations have accepted the same.

There are a few things that an upper class have accepted readily while the lower class denied. There have also been things when the lower sections are seen accepting them with the higher classes rejecting them. Not former but, the latter act of casteism is often seen during the intercaste marriages.
Not former but the latter act of casteism is often seen because the lower ones do not have background strong enough to fight other nor do they have to please the society by maintaining their status of being a follower and promoter of a particular caste. While the upper-class people do not accept these because they have to look after their reputation in the society. More than their happiness they have been running behind to please the society.

And thus we see the casteism more often seen in the upper classes more than the middle and lower ones especially in case of marriage.



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