- Surbhi Jain
“Change your vocabulary and you can completely change your success”.
Language matters. The right words can motivate you to take your happiness and success to the next level- but the wrong ones can stand in your way.
Studies have even found that using positive or negative language can change your brain by impacting the expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress.
Even more importantly, it’s been discovered that we say that 300 to 1,000 words to ourselves every single minute. If you’re practising negative self-talk, that’s a lot of negative words being thrown your way.
If you’re serious about moving towards success in every aspect of your life-including your words= read for 5 phrases you should eliminate from your vocabulary.
- “This has to be perfect”.
Often, we strive for perfection because we seek approval and praise from others. When we obsess over how others perceive us, we are left unhappy, disappointed and unmotivated. Although you should always aim to do your best work (and you should never be making sloppy mistakes), you can’t expect to take on new challenges without a few slip-ups along the way.
- “I’m so busy”.
A recent study shows that in general, we’re much happier when we have a lot going on in our lives. So why is our response to ‘how are you”? Usually met with tales of busyness, followed by an exhausted sigh? When we vocalize this state, it automatically conjures negative thoughts, forces us to run through a to-do-list in our heads instead of being present in the moment, and serves as a thinly-veiled cover-up for how we’re actually feeling.
- “They’ll change”.
Many of us are “fixers”. We see someone with a problem, or we see some aspect of their personality or behaviour to that we want to change- so we force our idea of what is right for them. People cannot change unless they want to. So not only is trying to change others futile, it compromises their happiness and ours.
- “This is the way that it’s always been done’’.
Think about some of the biggest innovations of the last several years: ride-sharing apps. Electric cars. These new products disrupted entire industries because they did things completely differently. Don’t be afraid to challenge the status quo and think of new ways of solving a common problem-you can be sure your boss and the people around you will take notice.
- Constantly saying “yes’.
When we say ‘yes’ to everything, we make ourselves susceptible to being overextended, overworked and overwhelmed. It also cheapens the value of our time and blocks us from being able to put our full energy into the things we really want to say yes to.